You wouldn’t think an ABC Family movie would ever be the answer to your one of your many questions about life, but sometimes you just don’t know. I watched a Sara Rue and Barry Watson movie today, as I was sitting in my chair after basketball. The movie was called my future boyfriend. The thing I occasionally like about ABC Family is that there are always pretty good stories on there. This movie was about the future, how one event happens and it changes the rest of your life, and probably most of all about the “illogicalness” of love. For a long time I wasn’t really certain how I felt about love. I thought that it was a very worthwhile emotion, but I also thought that it took a lot of effort. That was the logical side of me speaking. Really though, love is one of those things that truly makes the world go round. What I have learned lately is that love is great, but it has to be on both sides. If you give, give, and give some more, and all you get back are tiny things that aren’t really even gestures, appreciation, or anything filled with compassion, love is doing your heart a disservice. You can’t help who you love, and sometimes you can’t help who loves you. It’s caused many people to not eat, lose some sleep, do something crazy, and sometimes it takes you over. My favorite part about love, is when you feel it, nothing really stops it. I had forgotten that for awhile. As a guy, you always think that you can stop things. We are supposed to be bulletproof. We are supposed to be guys, we are not supposed to show weakness, or have any flaws. The truth of the matter is that we all do. We might not show, we might not speak about it, but believe me it’s in there. When we don’t get what we hope for out of love, we are forced to regroup. We sometimes think that we’re forced anyway, but maybe just maybe somebody upstairs is looking out for us. The interesting thing about me at this stage of my life, is that I still have things I need to be better at, there is no question, but the truth of the matter is that when it comes to matters of the heart, I’ve developed into a pretty good guy. I’ve had time to think about love, relationships, and life from lots of different angles. I’ve always been considered by some the guy, that might not ever get married, be a parent, or a step-parent, or even capable of loving somebody. There’s no shame in love. Even if it isn’t returned, the fact that you were able to feel it, makes you feel alive. I am appreciative for the times in life, that I have been able to love someone, or even something. They say in the movie Country Strong that you should “Find something new each day to fall in love with!” It’s one tiny thing in your daily life, but you should be able to muster the energy to find the ability to fall in love with one tiny thing. It seems like a simple process, but honestly a lot of us are bogged down at work, with life, or by our own negative thoughts taking over our minds. I’ve always believed that we can have some really bad things happen to us, even if we’re good people. My friend Melissa today, just last hour lost her sister-n-law to cancer. She became ill in February out of the blue at 40 years old. My heart hurts for her right now. Why it really hurts besides she was young, and a loving wife, was for the love that Melissa said her brother had for his wife. She said their kind of love was rare and special. All of us, once we’ve developed, and that is a key phrase, have the capacity to love somebody in a rare and special way. Sometimes we might not always get what we want out of putting our heart out there, but honestly everything is a lesson. Sometimes you didn’t really fail, you just got some divine intervention that your journey was supposed to be on a different path. So, if you’re road is ever broken, know that it’s blessed. We all deserve the best, and when we don’t get it, we know that we did it with our best efforts, and with our heart on our sleeves at times. What is probably sadder is to be almost robotic, and closed off to the possibility for what lies ahead in the future. I’ve always believed my future is bright, do you?
Someone Like You…
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